Porn – God’s reminder of our need for Him in a Culture of Self Sufficiency

Have you ever noticed or considered the reality that, in our North American culture, we don’t really have a tangible need for God?

Historically, the church thrives in countries where there is life-threatening persecution. The thought of losing our lives for the sake of Jesus is, foreign if not entirely unthinkable to us here.

The North American dream is to work hard and become rich, the perfect equation for self-sufficiency. Then when things get hard, we ask God why. But when it comes to scripture our lives having hardship is essentially a promise, so why do we get mad or frustrated with God when things aren’t easy in our lives? Continue reading

3 Steps to iPod Safety – They Got One For Christmas, Now What?

Its that time of year, inevitably your child received an iPod or tablet. From a grandparent or aunt or uncle, or maybe even you as their parent. And why not? Games are cheap and accessible, Nintendo DS’s might be cheaper at first but the iPods are what everyone wants, they do more and they look like Phones so it’s a no brainer right? Not entirely no – at least not without safeguards.

There are significant DANGERS and needed precautions to take! Here are the basics. Continue reading

A Disturbing Culture Shift: Popular Apps and Websites and What They Tell us About Today’s Youth

I’ve noticed a disturbing trend and shift in the current teen culture. The point of awareness came to me when I was preparing and researching different apps that are currently popular with teens.Anonymous selfie

In my naivety I assumed that teens were into the apps and sites that I am accustomed to and personally use. I found myself thinking things like “these are popular and main stream” but quickly found that what I consider normal and popular, like so many generations from the past, is no longer popular with newer generations.

I first started asking what was going on when I kept hearing that teens simply weren’t interested in Facebook. Continue reading

Describing the Risk of “Naked Pictures” to Our Children

Talking to our kids about porn is tricky to say the least. Parents regularly ask how to bring up the topic with younger Bambina naviga su internet e protezione onlinechildren, particularly in a way that doesn’t draw too much attention to what is supposed to be something we are trying to help them avoid. This was a major issue for me too when I considered telling my kids about internet dangers. Most times we are also trying to avoid having to get into detail about all of the things porn can entail. Well, the good news is that there is a quick and easy phrase to use to accomplish the need to bring awareness to our kids without peaking their interest. Dr. Dave Currie phrased it in a way that INSTANTLY gave me a sense of peace and even excitement about talking with my kids. The phrase goes something like this: Continue reading

Parents: Responding To Your Child’s Porn Problem

Women with laptop working in the darkMany parents believe that the character of their children will protect them from the dangers of the online world. Unfortunately the usual reality is that the online world bombards them and because of hormones and peer influence they don’t stand a chance. Their character may be solid and they may even be able to avoid things like cyber bullying and inappropriate self expression, but the world of porn usually manages to set deep roots past the wall of character that they have.

Regardless, if you find that either your child or even one of their friends is struggling with a porn problem here are the beginning steps of how to help them. Continue reading

A Youth Leaders Guide to Supporting Teens Struggling with Porn

This post will serve as a quick guide for youth workers who have someone they are working with and mentoring come to them and confess an issue with porn. The assumption is that they have come in order to get help. This list is directed towards youth workers specifically but can easily be adjusted for someone of any age if the term “parent” is changed to spouse etc. Also note that sharing and accountability as described is best done with people or youth leaders of the same sex. What to do (not in any particular order):

  1. Outline steps they should take.Computer. Computer Problems
  2. Offer to let them check in with you every day.
  3. Offer to help them find help from a counsellor or pastor.
  4. Offer to help them talk with their parents.
  5. Encourage them to educate themselves.
  6. Teach them about God’s design for sex and sexuality.

 What not to do: Continue reading